Love and Ish

Ok, so Valentine's Day has come and gone. The hoopla is over and the candy and teddy bears are now discounted.

A few weeks ago, my Cali girl, Nona, posted a question via Facebook: What is your definition of love?

Immediately, I thought of Shonda Rhimes "Year of Yes" book that I recently finished, and her notion that love is a choice. When I originally read that she deemed love to be a choice, I disagreed, as I believed that love was more of a feeling - something you do without thinking. I don't think people can help who/what they love. The reasons behind love is various but the "what" of love is effortless. That's why we've all done something that may have been absolutely ridiculous in the name of love.

The definition of love is controversial. It looks different for each person. For some it's a choice, others it's not. After days of really trying to put love into words, I've been able to conclude that, for me, love is a conscious effort to feel. It's the consciousness to be free and be vulnerable in a safe space. It's the willingness to take risks for what (and who) your heart vibes for. The love is unconditional. It's vulnerable. It's fun. It's friendship. It's uncontrollable laughter. It's comfort. It's ridiculous. It's forgiving. It is silent and transparent. It's layered. It's kind. It's decisive. It's assertive. It's honest. It's effort. It's effortless. It's feeling. It's doing.

Love is that thing we all need, regardless of our specific love language. Love makes life better. And these days, we need a lot of love. Thankfully, there's no such thing as "too much love." 

So today (and beyond) I challenge you to be love and show love. Let that cup runneth over!